Thank You, Veterans

Today I woke up, climbed out of bed, walked into the kitchen where the coffee aroma filled the room.  I prepared a cup of hot coffee, exactly the way I love it! Then, I sat in my chair in the living room with my husband and my mom. We visited about world events, discussed our plans for the day, laughed, drank more coffee, talked much and went our separate ways to prepare for the day. We, all three, did these simple activities this morning without pain, without assistance and without fear. Without fear because I was born and live in this wonderful country where I am free to______________________.

Without pain and without assistance because, although I am free, freedom is not free and many, many, men and women paid the price for me. Many who are injured, living a life they never dreamed so I can live out my dreams. I’m not injured. They are. They did it for me and for you. Are we taking care of them well? I mean really well? I’m grateful. Thank you.

Published in: on May 5, 2011 at 11:09 am  Leave a Comment  
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**Rogers County Home & Garden Show**

Kick off your spring projects by getting some new ideas from the

 Rogers County Home & Garden Show

April 1-3




FRIDAY 5:00PM – 9:00PM

SATURDAY 9:00AM – 9:00PM

SUNDAY 10:00AM – 5:00PM

Choosing lovely thoughts!

Choosing. Making a choice. A car races past us on the highway, weaving in and out of traffic and speeding off out of sight.

Choice #1: What a jerk! Where are the police when you need them? They are going to end up in a wreck and really hurt someone. That’s ridiculous!

Angry Thoughts

Choice #2: His wife must be in labor and he is rushing her to the hospital – OR – what if he just got a call that one of his children was rushed to the hospital or needed to be rushed to the hospital. We pray he is safe and makes it with plenty of time to spare. 

Happy Thoughts

Thinking polar opposite thoughts creates totally different feelings. What makes the first thought any more real than the second? Nothing. Choose lovely!

Aye, Ca rumba, Lucy!

Okay, I don’t know exactly how to spell it but I know how it sounds as I have heard Ricky say it to Lucy at least a million times! My last blog was about positive thoughts and choosing to think lovely thoughts.

My dad died a few years ago and we built a house with two master bedrooms so my mom could come and live with us. We have moved her seven times. She lived here a couple of years, didn’t like it, moved back to her home town to a retirement village, didn’t like it, and two weeks ago moved back in with us. Talk about taking my thoughts captive. I am practicing it more than ever.

For instance: I get up two hours before I have to start getting ready for work so I can have an hour for my daily devotion, an hour immediately following to have coffee with my mom and my husband, then time to get ready. I should ignore my phone until I am ready for work but I haven’t mastered that yet (my next self improvement project) so I am often running out the door with my purse, my glasses, laptop in case only for my sweet little mom to say, “Jody, do you have time to help me with the VCR and look at these insurance papers”?

Oh my goodness – such guilt! The old me would let it ruin my day with either guilt or anger. The new me told myself she is independent enough that she hates to ask me to help her and she knows how busy I am so just when is a good time? Now, while we are having coffee, I say, “Mom, is there anything I can help you with or do for you before I get ready”? She feels honored and I am not caught unprepared! Life is good!

“Where the mind goes, the man follows”

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way, you are right.” 

I totally believe our thoughts are extremely powerful.  My life completely and totally changed the day I learned that what I “feel” and what I know to be true are not always the same. Thoughts come into our minds at an astonishing rate every day all day long. We process thousands of words each day. Where are those words coming from? Some come from outside sources but mostly from our own thoughts.

I have a mild obsessive compulsive disorder and can really obsess about things that nag at my brain.  For much of my life, I would wake with a feeling of dread and spend the majority of the day trying to figure out what terrible thing was about to happen? Financial failure, illness, or death of someone I love? I thought it was a warning, a sign from God, a premonition.  I didn’t know it was me.  Just me! Totally me! I learned that I don’t have to entertain every thought, every dreadful thought, which comes into my head. I can reject those thoughts and choose to think positive, lovely thoughts. In regards to a sign from God: His Word says that He has not given us a spirit of fear and that we should take every thought captive. Since I know that where the mind goes, the woman follows, I’m thinking lovely thoughts; thoughts of health, of prosperity, of goodness, kindness. Think on these things.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Published in: on March 14, 2011 at 12:18 am  Leave a Comment  
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I Want My House to Sell in Three Days – Three Hours Would Work!

Recently my builder wanted to show my house to some potential customers of hers and since she has worked so hard to get multiple houses ready for me to show, I did the same for her. Now, there are only two little people who live in our house and it’s only a few years old so nothing major but I did have to pay attention because, remember, the way we live in our homes and the way we market and sell our houses are two completely different things. Here are some things I did:

  1. Vacuum (obvious)
  2. Dust (obvious)
  3. Clean bathrooms (obvious) – put toilet seats down (maybe kinda obvious)
  4. Polish granite (maybe not so obvious)
  5. Wiped all the fingerprints from the cabinet doors with Old English polish which also makes them look alive.
  6. Scrubbed the sink drain thing-a-majig with S.O.S. pad (shiny)
  7. I have a black granite sink so I polished the sink and made sure it didn’t have any water spots.
  8. Inside every dishwasher around the edges is yuk where the dishwasher door seals, and although the inside of the dishwasher is clean, the edges are not, so I cleaned the edges.
  9. People always look at the corner cabinets for a “lazy susan” which I do have so I wiped down the shelves and made sure it didn’t look completely unorganized.
  10. People almost always look in the refrigerator so I made sure it didn’t have drips of anything that needed to be wiped.
  11. My pantry floor was covered with stuff; i.e., bottled water, 2 liter bottles of soda, small appliances, you know – just overflow stuff that two people can’t live without. Uncluttered the pantry – especially the floor.
  12. I also have an island that has a couple of places where there are a few nicks in the paint so I used the walnut Old English to mask the nicks.
  13. Polished the stainless steel appliances.
  14. Wiped out the oven and made sure the top of the range was clean.
  15. We all keep too much stuff out on our counters so I eliminated all the small appliances except the coffee pot. I added a pitcher, a couple of matching coffee mugs in place of a toaster oven. I hid my hand soap, dish soap and hand lotion under my sink. I also hid my napkin holder and added a large bowl full of fruit.
  16. Put away laundry.
  17. Arranged throw pillows – in every room
  18. Straightened master bedroom closet and cleared the vanities of everything that wasn’t really pretty.
  19. Baseboards clean? –  check
  20. Light bulbs functional? – check
  21. 21.   Windows reasonably clean? – check
  22. No cob webs (at least not that I can see)? – check
  23. Desk organized? – check
  24. Decor dusted? – check

Of course, this list varies with every house. Over the top? I think not. The competition is fierce. I kept thinking, “If my house was actually on the market for sale, I would be in competition with new construction”. People like new construction so what could I do to make my house more desirable than new construction? I spent two to three hours getting the house prepared for the showing. Then I lit a fire in the fireplace, turned on some soft music in a couple of rooms, turned on all the lights that would make the house look its best and I left. It looked good, it smelled good and I have no doubt when shown, the buyers would have a warm fuzzy feeling (what I’m always going for since buyers buy on emotion). I know I sure did. Where do I sign?

Oops! Attitude Check!

First of all:  It’s Sunday.  Sundays are good, right?  Right.  I love Sundays. 

Secondly:  I’m doing a study right now about negative thoughts and negative words. 

So, here’s how my story actually begins:        The alarm went off at 6:00 this morning because Brett had a 7 a.m. meeting.  What’s right about that?  But, I’m a positive thinker so I will stumble to the kitchen with my eyes closed to make coffee and have a few moments with my husband before he has to leave.  Good girl.  I have lots of time to get ready once he is gone but I have to arrive at the church at 8 a.m. because I am on Praise Team this month and we practice at 8:00.  Suddenly I realize I’m rushed.  No problem, I have short hair and I can do this and have a good attitude.

Whew!  I make it into my car with barely enough time to make the short drive to our church.  Turn on my positive thinking CD and I’m off when I realize I forgot my bible.  Oh, well, it’s all good!  I love Sundays.  For one tenth of one second I glanced down to put my glasses in my purse, (as if I would need to read something from my bible) and I hear a loud noise!  I just hit a mailbox!  How did that happen?  Now, I have a little temporary nausea and I check the mailbox.  Perfectly fine!  My car?  Not bad but my side mirror is shattered and hanging by an electrical wire slamming against the fender then the door, the fender then the door…..all the way to the church where Brett is standing outside awaiting my arrival.  Great!

Now, girls, you know just how I am feeling right about now.  I’m hoping he will feel sad that I’ve experienced such anguish and give me hug to comfort me.  That’s not what I got.  What I got was, “What were you doing?”, with a scornful look.  I felt like I was facing my dad all over again.  I wasn’t feeling the love and I wasn’t giving it, either.

With a little sweat on my brow but a smile on my face I went on in to practice – by now a little late.  Oh, by the way, I turned off the positive thinking CD immediately after encountering the sturdy and ever so stable mailbox. 

I love Sundays and this is just a blip on the screen.  It’s all okay.  Right up until the time one of the guys singing with us pointed out I had just sat on my glasses.  Yep, you got it!  Now I have a crippled car that needs a huge band aid and bifocals that cover one eye.  The guy that puts the words on the overhead screen is awesome.  Thanks, Brandon.  That got me through this morning.

On to Sunday School, Brett has chilled and loves me again, but I’m still thinking about my crippled car and how I will make all my appointments, a listing appointment today, a listing appointment tomorrow, showing houses, you know all the things a girl has to do and I can’t look good driving a bummed up car.  I can’t drive around town with my car looking so sad.  Sunday School lesson is on pride.  You know, being prideful.

I’m amazed every single day; the lessons I learn that I have been oblivious to for most of my life.  I was sick and mad when I hit that darn mailbox (which wasn’t in that same spot yesterday, btw) and I wanted to turn right around, go back home and pout.  I didn’t.  I continually checked my attitude with every turn and I am smiling as I am writing this.  It didn’t have to turn out this way.

I guess I’m still surprised that I can change the way I believe about things at this point in my life.  Like, I have always believed and even said, “I can’t help how I feel” or “I can’t help what I think.”  But now I know that isn’t true.  If I had a screen on my forehead so everyone could see all my thoughts, I would definitely be thinking on lovely things.  I didn’t go back home and go back to bed.  No, I pulled up my big girl panties and moved on. 

I do whole heartedly believe that the important thing is not what happens to us but how we react to what happens to us.  Attitude Check!  I love Sundays!

Published in: on August 9, 2010 at 3:19 am  Leave a Comment  

Choose JOY

You know how some days you stop to think at the end of the day and genuinely wonder, “Just what did I do today?”   Well, today wasn’t one of those days.  Today, I witnessed a miracle….maybe more than one.  Usually my blogs are about real estate but today wasn’t one of those days, either.  First of all, we spent the day at the hospital welcoming a new life into the world.  That would be our 10th grandbaby.  10 – yikes!  And before you get too far into that thought, if you are reading this and we don’t know each other, I find it necessary to say, I’m not really old enough for that but enjoying it, nevertheless.

Miracle #1 – Easton Joshua Grubbs.  Easton is a miracle in more than one way, on which I choose not to elaborate.  The fact that he made it here is miraculous!  Tiny and innocent, sweet and perfect.  A gift.  That would describe all the babies born into this world of every size, sex and color.   A tiny, innocent, sweet and perfect gift packaged into a beautiful little body for us as adults to care for, nurture, love and teach.

If that wasn’t eventful enough, I had tickets to and attended a women’s conference with the featured speaker, Priscilla Shirer who told a story about her mother requiring all her adult children to sort through all their own belongings and take them to their own homes or risk them being thrown out.  So, she parked herself in the attic and started through boxes.  Many had diaries or ledgers which she read through her life.  She noticed a common thread through every stage without exception.  Wishing it would hurry so she could get on to the next stage.

As I was thinking about the birth this morning and remembering when my own children were born, I realized that I have a lot in common with Priscilla. (Because of that, we are kind of on a 1st name basis.)  When I was a kid, I wanted to be a teenager; then I wanted to be married and have kids.  When I was pregnant I wanted it to be over; when my boys were babies, I wanted them to walk, then talk, then start school, sports, you get the idea.

I have a dear friend who once told me that when he was in his 20’s, he thought how tragic it would be to grow old with regret.  Come on, really?  Who does that?  In my 20’s, I never dreamed I would actually get old.  If I remember correctly, I was pretty much just concerned with getting the applesauce off the wall and the condition of my thighs.  Grow old?  Hmmm.  So, he said he decided to live his life so he wouldn’t grow old with regret.

My point is, as was Priscilla’s, there are treasures in every stage of life but most of us are sleepwalking through life hoping to wake up when this stage is over and we are on to the next one.  There’s good stuff in the hard stuff.  Remember “wax-on, wax-off” and all the work the kid had to do in The Karate Kid?  Remember he wasn’t just cleaning up the place, he was training but he didn’t comprehend that and he didn’t like it.  But when Mr. Miyagi threw a punch the kid deflected it every time.  The hard stuff equips us for the punches that are on the way.

“Surely the Lord was in this place, and I didn’t even know it”.  Genesis 28:16b

In whatever stage of life you are right now, remember, there’s good stuff in the hard stuff.   Enjoy your life everyday.  Choose joy.

Published in: on August 7, 2010 at 1:36 pm  Comments (1)  
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How Realtors Get Paid…You know, don’t you???

You know, don’t you? I mean everyone knows how REALTORS get paid, don’t they? Or, should I say how they don’t get paid? I believe that is one of the things we fail to realize – how would they know?

Most people know that REALTORS are 100% commission, right?

Most people know that if there is No production – No paycheck, right?

Most people know that when there is a $10,000 commission involved in the transaction; that REALTOR doesn’t walk away with $10,000, right?

Most people know that that same $10,000 is split between both Broker offices, right? That leaves $5,000, right? Most people know that that $5,000 is now split between the REALTOR and the Broker at a pre-determined ratio, right?

Most people know that if the REALTOR is a five million dollar producer, they didn’t make $5,000,000, right?

Most people know that if the REALTOR drives you around looking at houses, spends time researching properties for you, etc., and you buy from a REALTOR at an Open House or a For Sale by Owner, your REALTOR did all that work for you for free cause remember – No production – No paycheck, right?

Remember, your REALTOR does this to feed their family not because its fun to look at houses – lots and lots of houses. Your REALTOR works at real estate just as you do at your job. Would you want to work for weeks only to find out your employer decided to pay someone else for your work?

You get it, right?

Published in: on August 6, 2010 at 1:30 am  Leave a Comment  
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Buying Mums

mumsBuying mums, cutting back summer plants, bringing up split wood for the fireplace, opening the windows, closing the windows, opening the windows, planting pansies…….what to wear?

Autumn in Oklahoma!  I love the season changes.  Yes, every single season.  The past two weeks have been amazing as I have enjoyed the changing of the seasons in Oklahoma and I traveled to my sister’s home on Beaver Lake in Arkansas.  My sister, Shelly and her husband, Doug, live in a beautiful home on a bluff overlooking the lake and the trees right now are changing.  Stunning view – not to mention that they have added the mother lode of all decks!  It was pretty cold while we were there but it didn’t keep us from bundling up in jackets and blankets with hot coffee to enjoy this that I don’t see often.  It was nearly freezing temperatures and today 70’s.  What to wear?

Did I mention – listening to Christmas music?  I prefer no countdowns to the day of Christmas but I do like to enjoy the season as long as I can.  Okay, I’m not decorating the house or anything but while I’m watching the trees change with my windows open, listening to Christmas music, I am thankful that I live in Oklahoma.

Published in: on October 21, 2009 at 4:29 pm  Leave a Comment  
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